I went to see the JW guy's little gorefest 'toon. I wrote him a nice fan mail but he never answered me! Gee I hope I didn't offend... any more than he offended me...
anyone else try mailing this guy? Any responses at all?
Mommie Dark
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that Armageddon animated short
by Mommie Dark ini went to see the jw guy's little gorefest 'toon.
i wrote him a nice fan mail but he never answered me!
gee i hope i didn't offend... any more than he offended me.... anyone else try mailing this guy?
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The Watchtower Injures Families and Hurts Kids
by metatron ini've made this point before but it bears repeating.. the watchtower, with its extreme standards, injures.
families and hurts kids.. parents have a responsibility to teach and safeguard.
their kids.
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Mommie Dark
what a wise person you've become, Metatron! Your family is fortunate to have you.
My relationship with my two oldest sons has been permanently scarred by our cult life. The middle child especially has a hard time finding his place in the real world. (my grown sons are ADHD, and although of high intelligence, they are socially and emotionally still adolescents.) He has problems accepting that my parenting of his 9-yr-old brother is radically different from the cult methods I used on him. At one time I had to get really hardnosed about the older boys trying to discipline Little Dark. Ike thinks I should be spanking and whipping Little to get his attention. Ike thought HE was going to whack some respect into his brother, until I intervened! We've had several discussion, a few unfortunately at the top of our lungs, about the differences in their childhoods. Ike, quintessential middle child, is having a hard time dealing with it. He seems to feel that this proves I love Little more than I did him. Nothing I can do about this, but it's frustrating to have the cult getting between my kids in this peculiar fashion.
Both grown sons also have no ambition, no goals, no future plans at all. I don't know how much of this is brain damage and how much is residual cult effects. My consolation is that my littlest boy, never exposed to the cult, is a good student, good citizen, and mostly happy kid, with plans already for his education and future. Is this proof that unconditional love and no spanking is a better way of parenting? Can't say that for sure, all I can say is it's worked better for us.
I recall a similar discussion about JW kids on a mail list a few years ago. Someone likened JW kids to tightly-coiled springs... once they let go... SPROING!!! It may take some pretty big bounces for that spring to relax and settle into its final shape. That analogy sure seemed to fit.
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Question about apostates...
by TheApostleAK inanyone know if any famous apostates lurk or post on this site.
we all know of randy http://www.freeminds.org.
is there anymore else?
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Mommie Dark
'everybody is a star'----Sly Stone
'you're just another onionhead'---Todd Rundgren
'I am everyday people'---Sly Stone
There's a lot of this going around among us famoso types isn't there?
As always,
Mommie Dark
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Where do you go to die?
by wasasister infor the majority of humans, certain events are surrounded by tradition and ritual.
marriage, the birth of children, entrance into adulthood, and death are all life-events which will be marked by most with a form of religious ceremony.
for the few who have left off affiliation with a religious organization, these events are marked differently - more by tradition than by mystic ritual.
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Mommie Dark
wasasis,
(And wait a cotton-pickin minnit because you are STIll a sis only now you are a genuine free sis...but I digress...)
over the years YK has proved he is incapable of thinking or speaking reasonably about anything. This topic is particularly apt to set his antennae twitiching; he is morbidly afraid of his own death, to the point of extreme denial, and urgently craves yours and mine. This potent combination of bloodlust and fear, combined with his deep need to be the center of attention at all costs, leads him to act like a horse's ass most of the time.
You can safely ignore him. He occasionally posts windy suggestions that this-or-that world event or imagined fiscal crisis will precipitate Jehoober's Day of Wroth before the end of April (or October, or whatever he's spouting this week). Other than that, everything he says is as you see here. Free speech demands that even a horse's ass gets to fart in public if he wants. Ho hum.
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Discrimination lawsuit?
by SlayerLayer inthere is a local staircase company owned by on filthy rich jw.
they have a billboard advertising "experienced stair builders or installers needed--aplly within" i have experience.
i should go in with a tape recorder and apply.
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DO IT DO IT DO IT!!!!!!!
ANd please let us know how it goes....
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Oppositional Defiance Disorder
by outnfree ini have always felt that my goal as a parent should be to raise healthy (where it is up to me), happy, well-adjusted children who will be a credit to society.
for the most part, i think i'm succeeding.
despite and because of my past involvement with jehovah's witnesses.
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Mommie Dark
First: who is making the diagnoses on these kids? It's vitally important to get an accurate diagnosis after appropriate test batteries have been done. A pediatrician or GP is NOT qualified to make these dx...it takes a complete neurological and psychiatric evaluation to rule out other causes of the behaviors. A reputable neurologist will usually have a counselor for referrals, one who is trained in dealing with ADD, ADHD, and ODD. Don't settle for less. Your kid's future could be at stake.
Several other emotional/psychological problems share symptoms with ADHD and its neurological siblings. It's vital to let the right professionals make the diagnosis, and to use the services of the right counselors to help you make the lifestyle/parenting modifications that will work for your kid. Otherwise you could be wasting your time, money,and energy on the wrong interventions and treatments.
I don't understand why doctors are giving these kids Paxil and tranquilizers. These are not the first-line drugs for treating these disorders. Don't just accept scripts without asking lots of questions, like"why THIS drug? What do you expect this drug to do?"
It's also vitally important that you NOT get lost in dealing with your child's problems. You may find you need to grieve and mourn for your hopes for a 'normal' life for your challenged child. You also need to balance that child's needs against those of your other kids.
There is no shame in hospitalizing an out-of-control child if you can't cope any other way, especially when the ODD results in violent behavior. So long as the experience includes more than restraint and drugging, it could be helpful.
I heartily suggest FAMILY therapy, not just individual therapy. It can help you all learn coping skills, and it involves the whole family in the process of making a life around the child's disability (and it is a disability.) The other kids may feel helpless or overwhelmed, and family therapy will give them a voice and an outlet for their frustration. It can also help you to find a reasonable perspective when you feel like all you can see is your kid's problems.
It's a painful fact that a huge percentage of ADHD and ODD kids never learn successful life management skills. It's not anyone's fault, so don't waste your precious time assigning blame anywhere. It's just one of those hard facts we parents of brain-damaged kids have to accept. (accepting that these neurological glitches are brain damage is hard for some of us, and it's pc to use pretty euphemisms, but facts is facts, and dressing 'em up in pretty packages won't change 'em.)
As for the ADD/ADHD/H thing, be aware that any ADHD kid can concentrate for a long time on something he finds interesting (like video games). It doesn't mean they are faking when their attention sputters and fades at difficult or boring tasks. Also hyperactivity and poor attention span can result from many other sources than the brain dysfunction that characterizes genuine ADHD. Again, proper testing is necessary. When in doubt, get a second opinion. Even doctors can be misinformed about these disorders.
I heartily recommend parents join an advocacy/support group. You can find wonderful resources for parents online. My contact info is probably too old to be useful; my kids have been out of school for years. (and yes, they still at 23&24 are unable to hold a job and stay out of trouble; with the best goodwill in the world they continue to screw up their chances and get into scrapes. If you take it personally, it will kill you. You have to learn to keep them and their probs in some perspective. Don't forget to take care of YOU too.)
I wish you the best in dealing with your children. Let me know if I can help you find resources. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!
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jWs Musing about the Big 'A'
by Tallyman in* http://www.witnessesonline.com/cgi-bin/cgiwrap/witnessesonline/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=21&t=000024
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Mommie Dark
"I thought Marylin Manson did "Sweet Dreams""
Yes, the little ripoff did record a rather crappy version of 'Sweet Dreams' but in fact Eurythmics wrote/recorded the original.
His cover blows huge chunks, too.
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Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)
by Wounded Heart inused to be called multiple personality disorder (mpd).. i have it.
i was physically, emotionally, sexually abused.
the tramas in my life were so great that i split into many.
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Mommie Dark
Yep, that's what the shrinkydink called it Tina. Later someone pointed me toward info on a similar disorder called prolonged Distress Stress Disorder, a sib illness brought on by longstanding stresses rather than one large trauma. This would seem to be more my situation than post-trauma, as I had a series of nasty little traumas and stresses, rather than one catastrophe.
Same result, tho.
I'm much better now...
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curious
by bonnie38 ini wonder what the percentage is of ex-jws who become involved in other organized religions.
i had a discussion with a psychiatrist friend recently.
he told me that i am a "psychiatric anamoly," that most "devout" people who leave a religion will join another and become as devout in their new religion.
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Mommie Dark
maybe it's time for a poll? Some statistic-gathering? Somebody could maybe make a school paper out of it.
I lost my need for Churchianity first, then the need for an imaginary Skydaddy followed, and these days the only religion I espouse is our family religion: the Church of the Fliud Paradigm, for folks whose consciousness is rising and changing so fast it feels like a ride on a cosmic rollercoaster...we have no doctrine, no dogma, no rules... we just encourage scared religioseekers to scream 'WHEE!!!' when they feel disoriented and nauseous from their changing worldview. A cheerleader 'religion' if you will...
Life is short, and then you die. Might as well enjoy the ride while it lasts...
people who get involved in another religion are still too scared to try to make it without some salvation package to fill the hole left by their cult exit. It's just way easier to let someone else give you a prepackaged moral code; it takes real work and effort to find an ethical baseline without the support of a peer group...overcoming the herd instinct can be really really hard to do. It's worth the effort tho.
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Wow! The look they had on their faces!
by ianao inwitnesses: "why, no sir.
witnesses: "well, actually sir if...".
witnesses: "ok sir, but may i just say something?".
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Mommie Dark
Loves asks,
"Mommie you dont happen to have a large neon sign in the front yard that says "F.A.B Headquarters" do you? :)"No, but what a FABulous idea!
LOL,
Mommie